I have come from a strong feminist background and have been confused by all of the issues surrounding why some feminists might be anti trans. Purchasing this book was one part of my attempt to self educate about the issues from both sides. I have to say that the honest account provided here has really helped me to understand the issues in a way that goes beyond the short sound bites that you hear elsewhere. Personal experience is important and we will only ever understand what is right when we listen to the people involved and those that love them. Second hand stories from others are a poor simulacrum and it is not ethical or right to judge people based on them. This book shows that really clearly.