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It was recommended by our counselor. We now see a new counselor too.
I get setting limits. I also get counting and not giving in. But I also have compassion. I also want my kids to feel they are being heard and that it's ok to be upset, it's just not ok to be mean or disrespectful when upset. And this book doesn't teach that. It teaches that when you act in a way that I dislike, I'll make you go away. No matter how upset you are. No matter what happened. No discussion. No help working through emotions or reason.
Not at all effective. The info attempts to be an easy read...let's get just say, our kids had a lot of fun when we tried when intending to use the program. With a 5 month old, 22 month, and 4 years old.
We bought it. We used it. I regret it. This book is all about punishment, not discipline. There is a huge difference. If you want to have a close relationship with your child don't use this book or system. It does not encourage connection at all. I recommend Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. This book and system will work to get your child to behave, but at what cost? Is your relationship to them worth it? After a while, I could see that I was not addressing my daughter's emotional needs, I was just getting her to sit down and shut up. Like training a dog. People are not dogs. I am trying not to think about the damage I caused and I will try to be compassionate with myself because I did not know what I did not know, but I was searching through my past orders and came across this purchase from three years ago, thought about how much I regretted it, and decided to try to warn other parents away from it.
If I could give it a 0 I would. Honestly, I try to always rate nicely. This book comes off chauvinistic and ignorant to modern day lifestyles. There is a quote discussing the mom getting smarter. Granted, the reference is about the mom using a new technique. I feel that using the word smarter and only using it to reference a mother create a sexist feel. There is also a part about grandma and grandpa visiting. grandpa and dad go somewhere while mom and grandma disagree in parenting while learning how to parent. There are many great points as well as tips and tricks. However , there is not a great focus in mom and dad teams.
Horrible book. An OT recommended this book for my Autistic son! I wouldn't use this method on a child who wasn't Autistic. Recommends holding child down and restraining them to make them stay in time out?? Hello child abuse. I recommend "How to listen so children will talk, how to talk so children will listen" and any Janet lansbury books or "No bad kids." This should be achieved as out dated and not recommended.
Warning to parents. I tried the techniques in this book and my 5 year old got much worse not better. I gave it much time and he became violent. He was much better before this book. The problem is the child begins to think they can get away with 1-2 and also they know the worst thing that happens is a simple timeout. It got worse for us, we are going back to our old technique.
First of all I bought this book without reading reviews and taking the recommendation of a pediatrician. Now scanning through the reviews, I couldn’t agree more ! After reading this whole book , I literally asked out loud why it was so long!? There is a lot of fluff in this book. We are parents ! We don’t have time for fluff ! This concept could be a pamphlet perhaps with an additional fluff book for those who have more time on their hands. Of course after buying it , I wished I had watched a YouTube clip instead. Waste. Of. Money.
Annoying book. Starts talking about the 1, 2, 3 magic but it does NOT explain exactly what is that How the heck I gonna start applying something that is not explained? Can anybody tell me exactly what is the 1, 2, 3 magic? Because so far I do NOT see that broken down in the damn book