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My son has ADHD and spd the book was recommended by the psychiatrist unfortunately my son wasn't only one of the few challengers he absolutely hated the concept to the point his behaviour was much worse he found it challenging not to be able discuss how his actions made him and others felt. I already imposed a lot of the basics in the book reward praise etc but the fundamental point of not discussing things with your child did not work for us
I'm not necessarily against a counting system that is followed by a consequence, when a kid has done 3 bad things (assuming the kid knows they were wrong and had no good reason to do them, and the things were serious enough). My point of view, though, is that this book takes a very extreme and harsh approach. It's written with a tone that strongly suggests to me that the author dislikes children. In the first few chapters alone, (1) he suggests that children be "counted" and sent to time out for using a word that they didn't know was bad, without explanation, even though they heard it that day on the playground for the first time and have no idea what it means. It's a very "shoot first and ask questions later" kind of attitude. And (2) he basically says "don't take your children anywhere unless you absolutely have to". What kind of life experience does this person think kids should be given? This book is very antiquated and narrow-minded.
I read the book cover to cover and decided to follow this method. There are times it would "work" and other times it would escalate something small into something huge. Of course, the authors would say this is my fault and that I failed in the execution of their flawless method. Many books I read after this one (recommended by early childhood educators) mention how bad the time-out method is. I feel bad for even trying this method. I'd suggest looking for other methods or at least support authors that don't shame parents for trying their very best.
This book is simplistic and used mostly technics that I already use. It's common sense. Except for the parts on sibling rivalry, which I felt were bad advice mixed with contradiction. Through most of the book the author says to count fighting, then punish both children for it. Then, near the end, he says to leave most fights for them to work out on their own. I've had better luck ignoring or mediating my children's fighting than disciplining for it. I've even gotten willing and genuine apologies using mediation.
I'm about half way through the book and I don't like it. Thinking of myself as a "wild animal trainer" does not appeal. And physically dragging my child to a time out and then - if needs be - locking or barring the door if they resist is not how I want to be raising my child. To my mind, if you have to resort to using your superior physical strength, you may have won the battle but forget about winning the war. Moreover, even my 3 yo has her dignity and this book does not take that into account. (Perhaps if you have a truly out of control kid these methods are necessary, but I'm just looking to get my child to brush her teeth and get dressed for preschool without cajoling, begging, bribing and threatening.) Oh, and I could do without pages upon pages of extolling the book's approach. I've bought the damn book - now let's get to the point since my time is precious.