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I've been going through hell with my boy and reading this book has helped a little. But has I've been informed my somebody from camhs is that the Author has a more up to date approach on his website so not reflected in this book as it was written a few years ago. However this book would be suitable for anyone struggling with an explosive child but would also suit anyone involved professional with children of a challenging behavior including social workers, teachers etc.
Found some useful comments in this book but found it very heavy going after a while. Its a very personal thing to be able to tell if somebody else will get a lot out of it. Certainly not a waste of money though and may have something to do with readers frame of mind!
I finished the book and was all gungho on trying the techniques. But I can't predict always predict when something will set him off and he's beyond reasoning with once he gets started. We went for ice cream today and he had a fit because they were out of the flavor he wanted. Yesterday it was not getting him a Happy Meal. It just goes on and on. If he doesn't get what he wants, when he wants it and how he wants it, he throws a fit and just gets mean. He's only six but seems to be getting worse as he gets older. When he's not having a tantrum, he's a sweet, charming, funny, lovable boy. It's like a jeckle/hyde split. I'm going to reread the book and start from scratch. I try asking some of the questions and try coming up with solutions and alternatives when he's calm and all I get from my son is mumbles and smart alecky answers or he just ignores me completely.
My son has some behavioral issues, mainly the "give me's". I thought this book would help. While it does seem to be a very well written book by a well educated doctor, it's more for children is EXTREME behavioral issues. If you love your child, but are fearful of them seriously hurting themselves and/or others, this book might be able to help you better understand your child and how they feel. It is very insightful in those regards. But, if your little one with ADD or ADHD doesn't have violent tendencies, this book may do nothing more than help you to better appreciate what you do have. It does have one passage that I found to be very insightful for me personally. "If a child COULD behave, he would behave". This made me realize my son runs around the room like a wild cat sometimes because he literally can't make himself stop. His brain is moving and thinking at a pace that I can not understand. It's all about empathy.
I found this book to have a bit of a blaming tone towards parents, first of all. Perhaps because I'm comparing it to Raising Your Spirited Child and 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, which are very empathetic books towards the parents' and kids' perspective. This book is a bit condescending at times.
The other thing I didn't like is that he offers 3 plans, 1 of which he ever-so-subtly points out is worthless, but then throughout keeps suggesting it as an option, which just seems a little condescending. You can do this OR you can do this (the RIGHT choice). Plan B is a great plan, perhaps when you are working with a kid who is fairly self-aware (over the age of 7, maybe). It's not a good plan for younger kids. I tried it with my four year old and though she is incredibly verbal, she couldn't really tell me "what's up? (why she does _____)" and though she could think of some solutions, she had no ability to stick to anything we agreed upon the next day. So, just know - not for kids under the age of 7ish, I'd think.